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A lesson on women’s choices from the tales of King Arthur and his knights.

Posted in Books, Education, Entertainment, Life, Politics, Story time, Writing with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on May 25, 2017 by urbannight

Loathy LadyThere is a story about one of Arthur’s knights who is on a mission and he meets a witch who will help him if only he will marry her. He agrees. She resolves his mission and now he must keep his promise.  Other versions are where the knight becomes obligated to someone of a higher status who forces him to marry an ugly woman under this other man’s authority.

He is depressed because she is very ugly. She lets him in on a secret. He has to make a choice. She can be beautiful but he must decide when. Does he want her to be beautiful at night, when they are alone together? Then everyone with think he has an ugly wife and feel sorry for him. Or she can be beautiful during the day and everyone will think he is lucky to have such a beautiful wife but she will be ugly at night.

Feeling rather sorry for himself, he decided that it doesn’t really matter to him and tells her to choose which way will make her happier. Her response is, “Oh well, in that case, I would rather be beautiful all the time.” And so she was.

The moral is that men shouldn’t make decisions for women. When you let women makeLady Ragnell their own decisions, you may end come coming out of it better than if you tried to force her to follow your choices.

The other moral, as it is sometimes done, is based on a riddle the knight failed to answer.  What is it that women really want?  After failing to answer correctly and having to wed the ugly woman, by letting her choose, he learns the real answer.  What women really want is self-determination.  The right to make their own choices about their own lives and their own bodies.

Both variations of the moral are nearly identical.  The one that says women want and deserve self-determination focuses more on women and letting them make their own decisions.  The other saying that men shouldn’t make decisions for women focuses on men and what they shouldn’t do.  Either way, I think the story is really appropriate for today’s political climate.

How did my mom KNOW?

Posted in Activities, Childhood, Childhood Development, Craft Time, Daddy's Girl, Hobbies, Library, Little Lady, Mothers, Parenting, Princess, Story time, Tee Ball, Tomboys on January 6, 2015 by urbannight

My sister and I are very different.  She was a total tom-boy and a daddy’s girl.  I was the little lady but I wanted to run around and do all the boy’s stuff in skirts and dresses.  So I was part tomboy and part princess.  (I remember finding boards and sheets of wood and we would build tree forts and then turn around and have tea parties and picnics.  Boys and girls together.)

But what really gets me is how did Mom know, when we were not even in school yet, that my sister would gravitate towards sports and I would be the bookish, crafty one?  My sister was in tee-ball at the earliest age that was allowable and I was dropped off at the library for story time, film strips, and crafting sessions.  How did these traits make themselves known as such early ages so parents can put kids in programs that suit their personalities.  I vaguely remember, in kindergarten, begging to teacher to teach us to read.  But that was partly because I had already been in so many library programs that I really wanted to read the books on the shelves.  So what triggered my mom to send me to the library so much but not my sister?

I did ask her, once, years ago.  She didn’t really have an answer, other than she just knew.