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The Racist and Sexist History of Keeping Birth Control Side Effects Secret.

Posted in Education, Health, History, Writing with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on October 18, 2016 by urbannight

Here  is a very interesting article on the treatment of women by the health care industry.  Not my article.  I found it this morning and thought I would share it.  Also interesting if you are interested in History of Reproduction Rights or even in the History of Medicine.


To Do List; or, Why does travel trigger a cleaning frenzy in women?

Posted in Life, Travel with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on November 1, 2012 by urbannight

I have an ambitious night ahead of me.  I have to sort the clean laundry and pack what I need for 4 days. I’m going to Breckenridge Colorado for wedding for some friends.

I have to wash the dirty laundry because I’m sure there area couple items I want for the weekend.  I’ll throw in the sheets and remake the bed. 

I want to get all the dishes cleaned and put away.

I need to shower again to try to get the last of the grease paint out of my hair.  I didn’t put it in my hair but some got into my hair as I was trying to get it off my face.

In addition to cleaning the litter box area and making it all fresh and ready for the cats, I want to clean the entire bathroom so it is clean when I get home.

Washing up tonight means I can pack ‘most’ of my toiletries and bathroom stuff tonight and not worry about it in the morning.

I need to set up four-day feeding and watering stations for the cats.  although I will be home half way through the fourth day. 

I think I would like to clean up the bedroom so that I’ll come home to a nice tidy bed.

This is where we will be staying for 3 nights, Tomahawk Lodge in Breckenridge CO.

I’m working the day after we get back, so it would be nice to have a tidy and neat apartment when we get back.  That probably means I should put away the Halloween stuff early this year.  Leave the more autumnal stuff out and set out the more Thanksgiving specific stuff.

Basically, I’m going to try to fit in an entire Fall Cleaning ritual in about 4 hours, while hoping my roommates class runs the full-time. 

I have not even started on my plans for tonight and I already feel the need for this.

Not to mention I want to watch a show or two, do a little stitching, and take some screen shots and do a couple of blogs for which I’ll try to set up publication dates during the time I’m gone.

What is it about going on a trip that causes women to go into a frenzy of cleaning?  Is it learned behavior?  Because I know my mom did it.  Do men suffer this compulsion?  My roommate is a naturally neat and tidy male.  Most I know have not been.  I knew that he, and most other men I’ve met over the years, often just grab their stuff and go.  So I don’t really see men as the ‘gotta clean’ now type.

I also need to take a book or two, a stitching project, a crochet and/or knitting project for riding in the car, and some food prep and take my tea.  Oh, I don’t want to forget the lap top for extra photo storage.

Maybe I need to take two suitcases?  One for clothes and bathroom things and one for stuff to do?

I’m getting tired just thinking about it.  And I have to work a half hour late today.  ARG!

I’ve been dealing with pain for much of the past 4 or 5 years, here is a bit about it.

Posted in Education, Health, Life with tags , , , , , , , on September 28, 2012 by urbannight

Plantar Fasciitis and Meralgia Paraesthetica.  The words sound scary.

Plantar Fasciitis: involves pain and inflammation of a thick band of tissue, called the plantar fascia, that runs across the bottom of your foot and connects your heel bone to your toes. Plantar Fascists is one of the most common causes of heel pain.

The source of my heel pain.

Plantar Fasciitis commonly causes stabbing pain that usually occurs with your very first steps in the morning. Once your foot limbers up, the pain of plantar fasciitis normally decreases, but it may return after long periods of standing or after getting up from a seated position.

Area affected by Meralgia Paraesthetica

Meralgia Paraesthetica: is numbness or pain in the outer thigh not caused by injury to the thigh, but by injury to a nerve that extends from the thigh to the spinal column.

This chronic neurological disorder involves a single nerve, namely the lateral cutaneous nerve of thigh (also called the Lateral femoral cutaneous nerve). The term meralgia paraesthetica comprises four Greek roots, which together denote “thigh pain with anomalous perception”.

Where the nerve goes through the hip. Women’s hips are different from men’s so it is more common in women than men.

Pain on the outer side of the thigh, occasionally extending to the outer side of the knee, usually constant.
A burning sensation, tingling, or numbness in the same area
Multiple bee-sting like pains in the affected area
Occasionally, aching in the groin area or pain spreading across the buttocks
Usually more sensitive to light touch than to firm pressure
Hyper sensitivity to heat (warm water from shower feels like it is burning the area)

In addition to the Plantar Fasciitis in both of my feet, I have Meralgia Paraesthetica in my left leg.  I’ve had it longer than the PF.  My first doctor told me to lose weight and it would go away.  That was also the doctor that told me to change shoes and lose weight to make the PF go away and didn’t give me any other info on it.  The new doctor says that a lot of women get Meralgia Paraesthetica and losing weight may not do anything. And since i was 85-90  lbs lighter when it started, that may not be a factor at all.  In fact, between that and the PF starting a year or so later, these two conditions curtailing my ability to work out and stay active are a direct cause of my weight gain.

Anyway, It was so bad twice this week that it kept me up most of one night and all last night.  So bad last night that I had to call in to work today.  Oddly enough, the PF didn’t bother me at all this morning.  But in the past month, I’ve had mornings so bad that a couple of times I was a little late for work and one morning I was nearly 2 hours late.

I got another appointment.  The soonest they can get me in is next Friday afternoon.

Todd Akin, Paul Ryan, and Rape

Posted in Politics with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on August 21, 2012 by urbannight

This guy thinks he has the right to define what violence against women is?

He can apologize all he wants.  But I don’t think he used, “the wrong words.”  I think Todd Akin said exactly what he really thought. 

That somewhere, he was told women couldn’t get pregnant from rape because their bodies would ‘protect’ them from that.  So if a woman got pregnant, she must have wanted it on some level.  It’s just a variation on the old saying, “she was asking for it.” 

This is not the first time I’ve heard the theory.  It’s a very old wives tale I think.  What is truly scary is that people would believe and espousing this concept in our modern era with a modern understanding of medicine and biology. 

He wanted to change the definition of rape a while back.  I need to find out how he wanted to change it.  It’s already been changed before.  It was changed to recognize the fact that a husband can indeed rape a wife.  It used to be viewed that marriage was a contract in which a woman, by marrying someone, was agreeing to sexual activity with a husband whenever he wished it.  Therefore, no sexual act between a husband and wife can be considered rape.  I certainly hope they were not trying to reverse that. 

And as I look it up, they are not.  But it’s almost as bad.  It is trying to go backwards in time. 

They are narrowing it down to ‘forcible’ rape.  That means raping an unconscious victim, a drugged victim, or a mentally challenged victim would no longer be called rape. 

This means people using rape-date drugs on people would no longer be forcing sexual activity on people without their knowledge or consent.  I’m not sure what it would be called under their plan?  What else would you call rendering someone unconscious for the purpose of non-consensual sexual activity with them? 

Unless the idea is that if you are having a drink with someone, you are somehow agreeing to sex.  That doesn’t make sense.  What I you were having a pop? No alcohol at all.  Are you still ‘asking’ for it?  Or by agreeing to go on a date you are thereby agreeing to sex?  This coming from men who claim to be Christians, who are not supposed to have sex before marriage.   Does this mean they are not supposed to date?   What do they suggest then?  Arranged marriages?  Did they date their wives?  Did they assume that meant their wives/then girlfriends were agreeing to sex every time they had a date?

A girl at a college party, or maybe a woman a company party, passes out and someone takes the opportunity to have sex with her.  She is not able to consent.  So because she had to much to drink, I guess Akin and Ryan think it means she is asking for it and it is okay for a man to have sex with her like that.  That takes us right back to the idea that alcohol equals promiscuity.

What about women, institutionalized because of severe mental challenges, which operational ages of 5, 6, 7 years old, who don’t really understand what is going on?  It’s okay for staff to take advantage of them sexually?  Sounds like it based on what Ryan and Akin were trying to do.

Akin stated what he really believed and felt to be true.  A woman who gets raped is asking for it.  The onus of blame is on the woman, not the man.  And Ryan is right there beside him in thought.  And people really want to vote for a presidential ticket with Paul Ryan on it?  Shame on any American who votes for him.  Shame on any woman who votes for him.  Shame on anyone who can support people who believe this way.

My two cents. . . (if you want more, I need more than 2 cents).

Posted in Politics with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on August 13, 2012 by urbannight

A vote for Romeny/Ryan is a vote to support the right of the very rich to rape and pillage the rank and file of regular Americans in order to line their own pockets. The very image of the Robber Barons that were whitewashed and turned into role models as ‘captains of industry’.

It’s a vote for “the ends justify the means’.

It is a vote for the subjugation of women and a return to 1950’s morality and the stagnation of society.

It is a vote to keep government out of business and put government into your homes and bedrooms.

Obama may have been a disappointment but he is still a better choice than the above.

Mysteries of a Woman’s Purse Revealed.

Posted in Life, Writing with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on June 14, 2012 by urbannight

Here I shall unveil and demystify a woman’s purse. Everything is some sort of necessity or another.

Purse and Wallet



The small wallet helps to show how small the purse really is. In the wallet are the standard wallet things as well as my cell phone. My mother got the wallet for me when she was in Hawaii. I’m so impressed. She found something with a Hawaiian theme in black and white. It there is a little grey and cream. But it is a little dingy right now and I should wash it.

Something to do.


Contents of ‘Something to Do’ although beeds are not shown.

I have a small stitching project for when I need something to do. I can sometimes fit a book into this purse, but not when I have all this stuff in it. Maybe I should clean it out sometime?????
The little project is actually very stuffed itself. Taking up most of the space is the small, multi-folded envelope to keep all the floss colors seperate and in order.



Pens, Pens, Pens, more Pens

 I also seem to have accumulated a rather large collection of pens in black, blue and red.  I have one mechanical pencil for my gaming night (I hate pencils, I won’t even use them for word puzzles, but it is an absolute must for pen and paper RPG’s. Even I can’t get around it then) and one highlighter for marking completed stitches.  I’m not as good at remembering where aI left off as when I was younger.  I had a huge project and HAD to use a highlighter to keep track.  But I discovered that once you start using one you can’t stop.  You can’t really go back to keeping your place by memory.  I sometimes have my checkbook.  Since I destroy the covers, I don’t use them.

Soup and Beverage, Cough Drops and Pain Killers

 I also have a couple packet of instant soup, a flavor packet to add to water, a fist full of cough drops, (I figured just a few would do for the photo) and several packets of various types of pain killers.  I figured one would do.  The soup is yummy Fish Broth soup that is more tea like than soup like.  Wonderful on cold mornings after the drive in to work.  And sometimes you just get sick of flavorless water and you need something with taste.

How I get in to Work

Nail Polish

Of course, I have to make sure I can get into work once I actually get there.


I’m not too sure how I ended up sith so many bottles of nail polish in my purse.  I really need to take most of those out.  I would hate to catch my purse in a door and crack one of those glass vials.

Misc Things….

And last but not least I have an assortment of miscelaneous items.  A Tide pen for accidental dribbles.  An inhailer, D&D dice so I can always find them.  A small tin that holds 6 tea bags.  A tiny flashlight. Two lip balms since I’m always losing them.  The green one is a green tea balm and much better than chapstick brand.  The white spool is actually a sparkly pearl blending fillment.  And the plug to change my USB camera cord into a wall charger.  It will not charge from the computer.  I had a tooth brush and tooth paste in there too but they actually belong in my work desk so I took them out and put them back in the drawer.

Mrs. John Doe

Posted in Politics with tags , , , , , , , , , on May 4, 2012 by urbannight

Hello, I’m Mrs. John Doe.  I have no identity of my own.  I can only be known by my husband’s name.  Who I am is meaningless and irrelevant.  I have no value as a person so must find my value through my husband.

This is the subtext I hear in my head when a woman calls in and identifies herself with her husband’s identity.  I know it is a generational thing.  It happens very rarely.  But there are older ladies that cling to that form of address.

It drives me bonkers. 

Completely bonkers. 

Utterly Bonkers.

I see no value in it and no point to it.  I start to feel this overwhelming urge to ask a series of questions that might get me in trouble at work.

“Don’t you have a name?” 

“Did your mother really name a daughter Thomas?”

“Don’t you have an identity?” 

“Don’t you have any self-respect?”

“Don’t you realize you are your own person?” 

“Do you really only find your self-worth through your husband?”

“Don’t you realize that when you identify yourself like that, you tell everyone that your own identity is meaningless?  That you are meaningless?”

A coworker who sits next to me says I’m silly.  That it is no big deal.  But it is.  It means this woman is stuck in a mentality that tells her she had no identity outside of her marriage.  When I come across women who have militantly held on to their husband’s identity rather than their own, I wonder if they were the women who tried to hold other women back.  The women who agreed with the idea that women didn’t need to continue school past age 16.  The women who believed that all girls should get married.   So there was no need for women to be able to get bank loans or hold property in their own names.  Women like that U.S. Senator that was quoted saying that women shouldn’t have needed the right to vote.  The fact that women have the right to vote is just proof that men were not doing their jobs properly.  She couldn’t support the 19th Amendment because it started the erosion of family values.  I can’t believe a female politician would say that.  (Senator Kay O’Connor if anyone wants to look it up)

So yes, I get offended when I hear someone say, “I am Mrs. John Doe.”  It tells me that she sided with the people who want to keep women tied to the kitchen sink, barefoot and pregnant, with no rights or identity of her own.

Maybe I am taking it too much to heart?  Maybe I am over reacting?  Or maybe I’m just really cranky today and it was that one little thing to push me over the edge?

Women, Girls and Hormones.

Posted in Education, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , on April 5, 2012 by urbannight

Ladies, have you ever wished you could just hurry up and go through menopause just to get rid of some of the side effects of that time of the month?  I’m thinking about it as I hit here recovering from a migraine I’ve started to get almost every single month for the past couple of years.  Blood pressure meds took care of most of the headaches, but not this type of headache.

I’m thinking about it and wondering if it also has anything to do with the jump in weight I’ve had the past couple of years. When you are over weight, you produce more estrogen.  Could that be the source of my increasing monthly migraines?

Which leads me to an article I read yesterday. Or today.  I don’t remember as it is a blur.  What I do remember is that it was about the fact that girls are more and more often hitting puberty earlier.  As young as 6 years old.  That is still a bit odd but 9 years old is not unusual anymore.

People are trying to slow it down by avoiding meats that have had growth hormones used on the animals to make them bigger faster.  Many think this may play a part in early development.  And that may be true to a certain extent.

undernourishment does slow it down.  And the school lunch program was started because they realized that a lot of American youths were actually undernourished.  So much so that they didn’t qualify for the military during the draft for WWII.  So better nourishment and general health may also play a part.

But I also read another article this week on the fact that the medical field is considering changing the definitions of normal birth weight.  More and more babies are being born heavier.  More and more mothers are waiting until later to have children.  They are looking at redefining a whole slew of ‘norms’ relating to pregnancy and childbirth.  If weight is tied to onset of puberty in girls, then it could be possible that girls that are starting out heavier as infants may be in line for early puberty.

Personally, I think ‘normal’ infant weights ought to be the weight in relation to height that give an infant the highest level of health and success.  I don’t see how saying the new ‘sumo’ babies are the new norm and accepting that as a normal weight is healthy as there seems to be indications that this is already putting them at higher risk of childhood obesity from the moment of birth.

Somehow, the entire notion just offends me.

Some personal thoughts on the GOP and Rush and views of Women.

Posted in Life, Politics with tags , , , , , , , , , , on March 7, 2012 by urbannight

The problem with Rush L’s statement is that it implied that any woman using birth control is a prostitute and the extension of that idea is that ‘good girls’ don’t use birth control.

This perpetuates the medieval idea of the ‘virgin or whore’. A woman can only be one or the other. So a wife and mother who is devoted to her family automatically falls into the ‘whore’ category because she is no longer a virgin. This is a subconscious ideal that still crops up from time to time today.

It also is an attack on female independence from a biological function and therefore female independence from a patriarchal society. By implying that women who do not want to be seen as sluts and prostitutes should not use birth control, it subtly keeps them under the control of their male partners.

The fact that he then states he was saying it to be ‘funny’ or ‘amusing’ makes it worse. And as a conservative spokesman, he is showing that beneath the surface of conservative men, woman have low value in their world view.

It ties in with the conservative, female politician that recently stated that if men had been doing their job properly, women would never have needed to vote and she didn’t agree with women having the right to vote. She thought it was a bad thing done out of necessity because men weren’t doing things properly.

For such a thing to be said now, it indicates a deep thread in the GOP on how they view women that they generally try to keep buried in order to get the Independent and moderate Republican votes. I realize that I no longer think of moderate Republicans as GOP and that term stands for those much farther to the right.